I haven’t been slacking

As hard as I may try, I can’t do everything at once. This week has been one of running around. I am super productive but unfortunately unable to share daily. Here is a quick update as well as Mulan attempting to spit because sometimes this is how I feel.

  • I move into my new apartment with Batman/The Dark Knight Saturday. If you are free to help me move some boxes the truck arrives at 9:30am. Text or FB message me. We need a couch if anyone has an extra one.
  • I got a new part time job at the YMCA. I’m super excited to stay within my community and meet more of my neighbors.
  • I have a deadline for Motif Magazine on Friday for the Alt-Romance issue. This should be interesting. Look for it at your favorite Providence watering holes.
  • I have a show tonight at the Providence Improv Guild at 8pm with Small Mouth Bass. Information at ImprovPIG.com. It’s Musical Improv with the wonderful Keith Munslow.
  • I am planning a wedding for a friend and progress is being made. It’s so exciting and I can’t wait to share more on this in the future.

I hope to figure out a consistent way to provide you with random stories and thoughts as the year progresses. If you don’t see anything on my blog, bug me directly via email.


Love you all and hope to run into you soon!

XO Jax


Celebrating a dreamer

Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr was an INFJ on the 16personalities.com site or as they’ve named the type: The Advocate.


Painting by Todd Zavorskas, created at the event and donated to On Common Ground. Prints will be made available through our website at OnCommonGroundInc.org.

I had the ability to celebrate Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. in a new way this year. The nonprofit I work for had their annual Day of Service event. Typically, I am in Boston for MLK weekend dressed up in costume, running around a hotel with some of the most interesting people I have ever met. This was the first time in 6 years I have not attended Arisia and I’m okay with that. Instead I helped move supplies and people in and out of LaSalette Shrine’s conference center so that we could host speaker Joel Christian Gill of Strange Fruit Comics, as well as a variety of artists who gave their time to show forms of expression to the community. The event went very well and I was even featured in The Sun Chronicle’s article.


I think one of the things I like the most about celebrating the life and the legacy of Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King is the fact that it gives everyone the opportunity to discuss empathy. What does it mean? How do you exhibit empathy? The best way to explain it is through this video.

Empathy is not something everyone has but it’s important. Just see the definition.

noun em·pa·thy \ˈem-pə-thē\

Definition of empathy

  1. 1:  the imaginative projection of a subjective state into an object so that the object appears to be infused with it

  2. 2:  the action of understanding, being aware of, being sensitive to, and vicariously experiencing the feelings, thoughts, and experience of another of either the past or present without having the feelings, thoughts, and experience fully communicated in an objectively explicit manner; also:  the capacity for this

Empathy is being able to relate to someone/something’s feelings. We at times may not be able to understand our own feelings, let alone be sensitive to someone else. But for those of you reading this, I believe you have the capacity for this. It can be as simple as taking a breath before you say something to someone else and really think about what they said. To immediately rebut whatever they just said with a similar experience of your own may not be right. You’re trying to relate to them through a comparable but is your experience comparable to theirs? Could you be making light of their feelings in that experience?

In regards to Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. I don’t just see him as a civil rights activist or a dreamer. I see him and his work as that of an empathetic person who’s encouraging others to have empathy as well. When we give ourselves the full ability to understand someone else’s feelings we realize that their feelings aren’t the important part of the exchange. Their feelings are just the method of communication and a reaction to that of a larger problem. It’s typical that people don’t react until they are directly effected by something. By having empathy for others, we are allowing ourselves to be directly effected by the same experiences as them. It is my hope that we would all take THAT, that important information, and do something about it. This is where the civil rights or human rights activism takes form. I don’t need to have an experience with racism to understand that it’s wrong and probably doesn’t feel good but when I empathize with a person in America who is not white, I am compelled to do everything in my power to make sure that I have no part in the hate. I am determined to fight against hate I encounter with more love and understanding than I can muster. This is where the term “bleeding heart liberal” comes from. I always thought it sounded negative, like a bad word. But after reflecting on my time as a social justice warrior (another hot word right now) and the legacy of Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. I can honestly say that I’m proud to have a heart, a big heart, bleeding for every single person I meet everyday and the future I dream for us all.

Happy Birthday Rev. Dr. King, Jr. 

xo Jax


A photo from my trip the MLK Memorial in Washington, D.C. in 2012

Moaning and “Groin”ing

Have you ever thought about when you’re injured and you don’t have Facebook? There’s no status bar to update with your gripes. You have to reach out to individuals to share the news that you’ve pulled your groin walking back from the bathroom at work. How dignified. It seems stupid to share that type of information with people who aren’t the closest to you, like your mom or your best friend. So ultimately your left lying there with a bag of ice on your groan and no one to give you sympathy. So what do you do, nothing. You take Advil and you go to bed. You hope tomorrow it won’t be as bad because a groin injury is like a pain in your ass. (Well…it’s relatively close.)


FYI this happened the other day so I’m okay and you don’t need to show me any pity. 

My Personality Type – ENFJ-A

Have you ever taken a personality test? 16Personalities.com has it for free. My temporary roommates were taking it and talking about it during breakfast so I took a moment to do it. Here were my results.enfja

I’m not surprised. Extraverted 100% – I love people (especially you reading this.) Intuitive 72% – This is energy. According to 16Personalities.com, this is the most important because it focuses on how a person sees the world.

Individuals with the Intuitive trait prefer to rely on their imagination, ideas and possibilities. They dream, fantasize and question why things happen the way they do, always feeling slightly detached from the actual, concrete world. One could even say that these individuals never actually feel as if they truly belong to this world. They may observe other people and events, but their mind remains directed both inwards and somewhere beyond – always questioning, wondering and making connections. When all is said and done, Intuitive types believe in novelty, in the open mind, and in never-ending improvement. (Credit)

I’ve always been a dreamer but in high school Mr. Kaminski taught me to dream big. I continued to fantasize of what was possible, what I could do and how to make it happen. When I see an obstacle I always questions why it is that way. I know this makes many people mad at me. When wedding planning my mom would always say “that’s not what people expect.” Why did I have to do what people expect? Why couldn’t I do it the way I envisioned it. I have always looked for a place where I belonged and finally found it in improv. The idea that grown adults could play pretend and it was a performing art form, made me gleeful. Learning that the Empire Revue and musical improv existed brought tears to my eyes. I’m great at making observations of my surroundings and people but as an AV nerd and event planner I’m constantly wondering why they did it that way or how it works. How do I get behind the scenes so I can learn more about it? I also do believe in never-ending improvement. This is found evident in my desire to continually improve and better myself as a human being. Feeling 76% – I believe in having all the information you need to make a good decision but I’d be remised if I didn’t state that I am strongly swayed by feelings and listening to my gut. An example of this can be see in the purchase of my house. You can read about it hereJudging 78% – This one is funny. Judging is decisive and organized but prospecting are good improvisers and nonconformist. It makes sense why I would have a bit of that but due to my jobs, I have to be organized, otherwise I wouldn’t get things done. I can see the prospecting part of me picking up the slack for my lack of preparation sometimes. I’m not sure I like one side better than the other, I kind of wish this was more 50/50. There’s always room for improvement. 😉 Assertive 83% – As for my identity, it has taken me a long time to get to the place I’m in now where I feel very self assured as to who I am and what it takes to be me and accomplish my dreams. I know I’m a confident smart ass but I care about people, don’t forget about that part…that makes me less of a jerk than most.

Overall at the end of this quiz’s assessment it shows you other Protagonists you might know. Look at who the first two are.


I know my temporary roommate A was very jealous cause she loves President Obama. If I can be half as great as Obama or Oprah, I’ll be happy. Maybe I should change my name to Ojax. What did you get for your personality type? I’ll leave the comments open below so you can share your results.

XO oJax

9th and 10th day of 2017

Marketing the good word of Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

After sitting at the kitchen table for more hours than I wanted, I got a message from Batman/The Dark Knight. DoubleACS had time for me to pop over and film a PSA for On Common Ground and the Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. Memorial Committee of Greater Attleboro regarding the Day of Service event on Saturday at 12:30pm at LaSalette Shrine. This event is intended to bring the community together for an inspirational speech by Joel Christian Gill of Strange Fruit Comics and a potluck lunch along with family friendly arts and craft activities. I’ve been on the event committee due to my role as Marketing Manager at On Common Ground. The position is voluntary and works hand in hand with my Fundraising Coordinator role. I’ve been helping to spread the word. This video was part of it. It will play on Attleboro’s public access channel, their youtube, and I believe the radio. (I should probably double check on that.) Batman/The Dark Knight urged me to use the teleprompter which I usually don’t do because I rather be able to say it like a BOSS in one take. He was doing me the favor so I complied. It was interesting watching the words scroll as I talked. Not as cool as karaoke but I got through it in 4 takes. The last being the most energetic because really if you don’t put some umpf into it, what are you doing. Take a look and a big thanks to DoubleACS.

Another cool thing about the event on Saturday is that my altruistic friend Todd aka Zombie Leader will be painting live a portrait of MLK Jr. for attendants to admire as he works. I’ve been very proud of the immense progress Todd has made painting on a regular basis. We were trying to think of other ways we could incorporate more art into the event and Todd was texting me at the time. So why not take him up on his generosity once again? Todd was thrilled and I look forward to seeing the result. I have been blessed with two originals from Todd. One of me as Dazzler, the other a unicorn with blue eyes. You could say it’s me in my true form but you’d have to ask the artist.

Comic Cons

Speaking of Todd, we actually have a very full schedule of comic cons coming up. Todd has asked me to help him as often as possible. I think he realizes how good I am at the table hustle. You can’t just sit there! That being said, I will be happy to be a member of Team Zombie Leader whenever I can. I’ve asked for some fabric to design my own uniform and intend on working on my zombie makeup further. It’s sometimes too stressful to plan cosplay for each con and much easier to just go with a zombie. In previous messages you will see that I am a bit tired of cosplay. I still love it but the reasons for doing it are not the same. It used to give me a way to express myself and be outrageous under the guise of costumed play. Now I can be as garish as I want without fear. I can also wear costumes whenever I want and take photos. Comic cons are expense and are moving towards the mainstream consumer market. Very few of them are focused on community and so I rarely see my friends walking the halls. At least if I go with Zombie Leader, I’m supporting the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society and my friends will be able to easily find me as I’ll be stationed at the table. I’ll be sure to add any cons I’m attending to my public Facebook events section, you can subscribe to be notified of events as well if you use Facebook. I will try to keep them up to date on my website as well.

Residential Life

After my camera time Batman/The Dark Knight and I finalized the paperwork and submitted to my favorite apartment. By today we were approved and by tomorrow we will have secured an awesome 2 bedroom in the heart of Attleboro. Walking distance to my temporary roommates A & C as well as Morin’s, the commuter rail, DoubleACS, the library, the skate park, and so much more. We are very excited and I can’t wait to move in an unpack my piano and sewing machine. I’m sure they miss me as much as I miss them.


Another visit to the Attleboro Public Library. I returned a few I didn’t need, picked up an audiobook I had requested, and took out 3 new ones: one about writing with a cause, one about musical theater, and one by Tim Gunn about fashion. Can you see how diverse my interests are? I love finding out where these sections are in the library. I get so excited knowing that all of this information is accessible to me. I want it all. I take the books, read them, skim the parts that don’t interest me, and process the information. I make notes in the paper journal I’ve been toting around with me everywhere I go. (Sometimes I text myself too.) Visit your own library. Feel a book. It’s real. It’s in your hand. The information in it won’t be deleted amidst controversy. It will continue to be there, present in the moment with you and in your hand, until your return it.

Consulting Continues

I had an appointment with one of my clients in the evening. It’s always nice to know that you are able to help someone, it makes it better when that person is just a pleasure to work with. This is my favorite part of being a consultant. I can take on clients who don’t want to use me but rather work together. They give me their problems and I give them budget friendly solutions to choose from. We discuss the pros and cons, make decisions and turn problems into opportunities to learn and grow.


I had received a call earlier in the day. A friend of E and I was thinking of coming to Massachusetts for a visit. I was happy to head to E’s house to watch WWE’s Raw and hang out with a friend. We all share a mutual love of wrestling and wrestling belts. E has so 15975290_10100737719785561_3864094092673088101_omany belts and our friend re-leathers them professionally. I have two but one I intend to sell after it’s been re-leathered. The other one is a Tag Team Championship belt in a children’s size. I love it, I got it because it was New Day’s belt but they have since lost it. It really is perfect for me though, in size and the fact that I will always be a solo tag team champion until I meet my tag team mate. Que sera…I LOVE WRESTLING. I want to be able to go behind the scenes or see them working on the script for the match. At least when I talk about wrestling with my friends who enjoy wrestling they either answer my questions or listen to my ramblings. I’m 100% okay with playing into the story and enjoying it. It’s so campy. Wrestling is violent athletic improv and I would love to learn how to do it one day…and that day will be A NEW DAY. (I’m writing this while watching SmackDown with F. I may be overdosing for the week.)


I’ve started listening to the audiobook for The World According to Mister Rogers. Like the Oprah audiobook, this book is so positive. Mr. Rogers’ an amazing human being. I will write more in depth about this once I finish it but from what I heard, there are so many wonderful quotes in it. I’m trying to think of who you could compare Mr. Rogers to these days but really there is no one like him. I want to be like Mr. Rogers. I want to encourage people, provide them with hope, and make their days better. If I had to write a list of the people I wanted to emulate myself after it would be: Gwen Stefani for style and courage to speak the truth of her feelings, Mr. Rogers for his ability to find what is special in everyone and celebrate it, Pee Wee Herman for his child like sense of wonder and fun, and Martha Stewart for her patience and resourcefulness. If I could be like all of these people but in my own way, I would be happy. I guess that’s what I’m striving to do.

In regards to writing, this is only a portion of the past two days and it’s taken me about two hours to write. I’m tired and content to relax with F, her two cats, and watching SmackDown. Until next time…

XO Jax